I've always been pretty good at making friends. But the trick is keeping them, finding the ones that stick forever. When I look back at the biggest friend-making events of my life (high school, college, work), I realize I have a handful of friends who were, at the very core of everything, real. Those are the people who are still in my immediate circle of friends.
With these friends joys and heartaches are never solitary endeavors. We're not afraid to cry or laugh or sing or dance together. We share recipes, stories, style ideas. We talk like friends, because that's what we are.
|Also, real friends = the best memories|
Now think about Twitter. What is it? It's a form of social media. Social media. It's not some platform for you to use only to push out messages about yourself, your blog, your book. It's a place to engage. To make friends.
I see so many writers with thousands and tens of thousands of followers. But then I look at how many people they're following, and nine times out of ten it's more. Why is that a problem? Because there's just no way to engage that many people on Twitter. And unless you're Lady Gaga or Beyonce or Maureen Johnson (yes I just put her up there with those pop stars), they probably aren't paying all that much attention to your Tweets.
I'll say it again: They probably aren't paying all that much attention to your Tweets. And if you're trying to use Twitter to build a platform, to show agents: Hey! All these people will read my book! Think again. If you aren't engaging them, if you aren't building relationships, or if you aren't one of the most hilarious people on Twitter, it's not going to work.
So is it bad to do a search for writers and connect with them? Is it bad to follow people back if they follow you first? No. But that's only an initial step in connecting. I don't automatically follow people who follow me. It's the people who include me in Tweets, who try to start a conversation, that I want to connect with. And I do the same to them. Those are people I want to support. Those are people who will support me.
Are you on Twitter? If so, leave your handle in the comments! I always want to support my blog followers.